What Is Transactional Analysis — And Why Does It Matter

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There's a particular moment that comes up in leadership coaching, usually around the third or fourth session, when the presenting problem — the conflict with a board member, the team that won't follow, the role that doesn't quite fit — starts to reveal something underneath it.

A pattern. A repeating logic. Something that has been true across multiple contexts, multiple organisations, multiple relationships.

That's the moment Transactional Analysis becomes useful. Not as a framework to apply to other people. As a lens to understand what's actually driving the system — including you.

What Transactional Analysis actually is

Transactional analysis (TA) was developed by the psychiatrist Eric Berne in the 1950s and 60s. It began as a clinical model for individual therapy, but its real power has always been in understanding how people interact: the transactions between them, the unspoken contracts that govern relationships, the games people play without knowing they're playing them.

In an executive and team coaching context, TA offers something relatively rare: a model that is simultaneously psychological in its depth and practical in its application. It gives leaders a shared language for dynamics that are usually felt but rarely named.

That shared language turns out to be surprisingly powerful.

The ego state model: why you're not always the same leader

One of TA's foundational concepts is the ego state model. Berne proposed that at any given moment, a person is operating from one of three ego states — Parent, Adult, or Child — each with its own characteristic thinking, feeling, and behaviour.

This isn't a hierarchy. It isn't about maturity or competence. It's a description of where you're operating from in a given moment.

The Parent ego state carries the values, rules, and behaviours internalised from authority figures early in life. In leadership, it can show up as genuine wisdom and clear standards — or as automatic criticism, overcontrol, and the unexamined assumption that your way is the right way.

The Child ego state holds the adaptive strategies developed in early relational experience. Under pressure, the Child can surface as the part that shrinks in a difficult conversation, defers when you'd rather not, or escalates in ways you later don't quite recognise as yourself.

The Adult ego state processes present-moment reality — data, context, felt experience — without the distortion of old patterns. It's not emotionally flat; a healthy Adult has full access to feeling. But it's not captured by feeling in a way that closes down thinking.

The question that matters in coaching isn't which ego state is best. It's: which one is actually running the meeting?

Scripts: the leadership narrative you didn't choose

TA's concept of the life script is where the model moves from interesting to genuinely transformative.

A script, in TA terms, is a life plan — decided early, often outside conscious awareness, based on the messages we received about who we are, what we're worth, and what we're allowed to have. It shapes not just how we behave, but what we allow ourselves to want, pursue, and accept as true.

In a leadership context, script patterns can look like this:

• The leader who consistently takes on too much — not because they lack boundaries, but because being indispensable feels like the only secure way to belong

• The founder who cannot delegate, not from a lack of trust in their team, but because their identity is so fused with the work that handing it over feels like disappearing

• The executive who consistently undersells their contribution in rooms where visibility would serve them — not from false modesty, but from an early injunction that says don't surpass, don't take up too much space

• The team leader who avoids difficult conversations until the pressure becomes unmanageable — then overcorrects in a way that damages exactly the relationships they were trying to protect

These aren't character flaws. They're survival strategies that worked at some point and haven't been updated. TA gives us a way to see them clearly without pathologising them — and to begin, carefully, to revise them.

Psychological games in the workplace: why the same conflict keeps happening

One of Berne's most provocative ideas was that much of human interaction follows predictable, unconscious patterns he called games — sequences of transactions that feel spontaneous but follow a hidden script, and end in a familiar bad feeling for everyone involved.

In organisational life, games are everywhere. They're the feedback loop that never quite resolves. The meeting that always ends in the same dynamic. The client relationship that repeats the same rupture. The senior team where one person consistently ends up carrying the blame — and everyone is quietly relieved that it isn't them.

The value of TA here isn't to expose or accuse. It's to make the pattern visible enough that people can choose something different. When a team can name what's happening — not pejoratively, but accurately — the game loses its automatic quality. There's a pause. And in that pause, a different move becomes possible.

TA in team coaching: a language for the undiscussable

The most significant application of TA in team coaching isn't individual — it's systemic. When an entire team has a shared framework for psychological dynamics, the quality of conversation changes.

Teams can start to notice: we're in a pattern right now. A particular person is carrying a lot of the group's anxiety. The same voices are dominating, and the same voices are silent, and everyone can feel it but no one is saying it. The team is working hard and somehow not moving.

TA doesn't resolve these dynamics by explaining them. What it does is offer a precise, non-shaming language that makes the implicit explicit — and in doing so, creates the conditions for something more genuinely collaborative to emerge.

This is why TA-informed team coaching tends to produce durable change rather than temporary shifts in behaviour. The team doesn't just learn new skills. They begin to understand their own operating system.

What this looks like in practice

TA-informed executive and team coaching in practice isn't a seminar on psychological theory. It's an exploratory process — usually one-to-one or with a leadership team — in which TA concepts surface as and when they're useful.

A client doesn't need to arrive knowing what transactional analysis is. What they need is genuine curiosity about what's actually happening, and a willingness to look underneath the presenting problem.

What tends to emerge is a combination of clarity and relief. Clarity because the pattern finally has a name. Relief because having a name means it's no longer just a personal failing — it's something understandable, something that makes sense given where it came from, and something that can, with the right support, be changed.

A question worth sitting with

Think about a recurring dynamic in your working life — a type of conversation that tends to go the same way, a relationship that follows a familiar arc, a pattern you've noticed across different roles or organisations.

What if that pattern isn't a coincidence? What if it's a script — and the script is revisable?

That's not a rhetorical question. It's the beginning of the work.

Fleur Jaworski-Richards Executive Coaching

Fleur Jaworski-Richards is an executive coach and psychotherapeutic counsellor based between Chamonix and Geneva. She works with senior leaders in creative, digital, and technology sectors, bringing over 25 years of industry experience together with ICF coaching certification and UKCP psychotherapeutic training.

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